Friendship process analysis

April 24, 2010

Dated feb 2010:

Sometimes people come into your life and you know instantly that they are meant to be there. They serve some purpose, teach you a lesson or help you figure out something. The way they meet you is very ordinary and mundane. Yet you have that strange feeling of having found someone you were looking for. A smile you would recognise or a voice that would give you a smile. A face which calms you and soothes your heart.

Most of the time we never stop and think about how this person has grown in your life and how you have grown in yours because of that person. Its really simple and yet amazing how the influence of such person are reflected not only in your choices but also in your behaviour. You tend to pick up some of their character and unknowingly imitate it. Its rather pleasant surprise when you realise this fact.

Maybe evolution has a very deep role in this. For the survival of humans, they have to coexist. They have to form much deeper bonds than those exhibited by other animals. This, thus, paves the way for development of emotions of much higher complexity. The irony is that the same brain that exhibits these emotions is all the time fooled by it. Not even fooled, it acts as a distraction more often than a guiding force. But then, without such emotions, leading a meaningful life with such a complex brain would be impossible. At the vortex of this chaos we try to find a reason or some sort of logic called “purpose” of this life. That purpose itself is less exciting than the journey and hence it is the one which is valued the most.

But these are just too many events for the brain to keep account of in the real time (When it is actually happening). So, not many worry about it and just enjoy the budding and growing friendship